"Adam"

I say that I am waiting for God to send me a good man, yet I still look to the men who are empty to fill the role of “My Adam” not trusting that God will be faithful in this area as he continues to show himself faithful in every other area. Thinking that if I see one simple characteristic that aligns with that of what I wanted in a man the rest will follow if we are willing to work together; telling myself that if he likes me a little then he can one day learn to love me. Justifying the fact that we are all broken and all need work so I become open and willing to help him fix his problems. Listening to all of the sweet nothings he tells me to keep me near.

How in the world can I expect a man who is empty to lead me in my walk with Christ? If I truly desire to live in a way that is pleasing to God I must not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). This scripture says unbelievers yes, but I believe that people who believe differently than you do is included; or those who believe in God but haven’t yet decided that they want to fully live in a way that is pleasing to him. If someone has not fully committed to Christ it is easy for them to backslide. If they are living a lukewarm lifestyle they can pull you away from what you know is right, pull you away from the standards you have set for yourself. We must remember to guard our heart (proverbs 4:23).

Guarding your heart doesn't change just because you are dealing with a Christian someone who has decided to fully live for God. We may see a man of God who is living right, looking good and has great conversation but these things do not mean that he is “our” man of God. There are plenty of good men, plenty of Godly men on earth that seem like they would be good for you. We live by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). Just because it seems perfect to us right now doesn't mean it really is, we don’t know God’s complete plan for our life. Your man, your “Adam” will pursue you, you do not need to pursue or chase him.

With that being said let me make this very clear ladies, we should not chase after a man EVER. Men know what they want and they go after it, men are to lead in the relationship. If a man truly see’s himself in a relationship with you, if he has a peace from God about you he will make his move. You don’t have to go out of your way to make him notice you. If you are his he will notice you, this doesn’t mean walk around not taking care of yourself, not presenting yourself in a way that is clean and put together. Take care of yourself for you, carry yourself in a way that demonstrates your love for yourself, that is both flattering and modest demonstrating your appreciation for what God has created.

Become at peace with yourself. Learn to love God completely, with all that you have, submitting to him fully and trust him to fulfill your desire to meet your “Adam” and get married. We know that we must trust him with every area of our life and though difficult at times we still manage to give it over to God completely. We must also do this with relationships though we get lonely sometimes we must trust that he is our comforter. God will teach us and grow us in every area of our life that will help us to submit to our husbands and love him but we must first fully submit to Christ and learn his definition of love.

Ephesians 5:22; 1 Corinthians 13; Genesis 2:18-24; 1 John 4:7-8 ; Proverbs 8:17; Jeremiah 29:11; Proverbs 3:5-6